It’s too late for couples counselling when you have no more love, will, or motivation to work on making the necessary changes.
You’ve come so far apart, and it all seems hopeless. Maybe it seems like you’ve tried everything in vain, and yet there’s hope that you can get closer again. Book a free initial consultation and find out what you can expect from a couples counselling session. For example, how you can work together and explore what works for you to create the necessary changes in your relationship.
Will and Motivation
When you have no will and motivation left to have a good relationship, it’s too late for couples counselling. That’s the short answer. In other words, when you no longer want to sacrifice anything for the relationship, it’s too late. But it can be incredibly difficult to recognize what’s what when you’re in a conflicted relationship.
There are so many emotions at play in a relationship, and even the most attentive person can have a hard time distinguishing which emotions belong to what. Are old instincts kicking in, old defence mechanisms, are we protecting ourselves, or do we dare to take responsibility for our own feelings and look at the relationship from the outside?
Some couples can experience so much frustration with each other that they can barely get near each other. But what is that frustration about, inside yourself? What are you missing?
This is where couples counselling can increase your awareness of what you miss and how you can get closer instead of letting the frustration come between you.
Go to Couples Counselling in Good Time
Research and bitter experiences from many couples show that when we don’t thrive in our relationship, it affects our overall well-being and happiness, both at work and in everyday life in general, det gode parforhold.
Therefore, it is of course recommended to take responsibility for your relationship and start couples counselling when things start to get difficult.
I have sat with many couples who have regretted not starting couples counselling sooner.
Unfortunately, Many Wait Too Long
Unfortunately, many couples wait for the sun to shine or for the good relationship to happen on its own. If only you did something more or less, everything would be fine. And the other person thinks the same. It becomes a new way of being together, where they often live unreflective and unhappy together. That’s just how it happened.
The longer such a pattern has been going on, the longer it takes to change. Usually.
Unless the relationship is disrupted by a crisis. For example, if one of the partners has been unfaithful, or wants a divorce because they can’t stand being in that pattern anymore. It’s often a rude awakening where both parties take the spoon in the other hand and work purposefully on the relationship.
